My wife Christy got her first book published in November of 2013 and it has been a journey not only for her, but for me, too. It all started when she kept hearing voices in her head (from my understanding, all authors hear those voices). I remember one of the first times, it was about 2 am and she couldn't sleep because she had a story in her head that she couldn't stop thinking about. Being the supportive husband (and wanting to go back to sleep), I told her she needed to write down what was going on inside of her head. She did, and it kept up from there.
Night after night she would write the story that kept her up ALL hours of the night. Once, I went to bed at 10 pm and Christy couldn't sleep, so I told her to go write, well she did. Eight am the next morning, the alarm goes off and I am in bed by myself. She stayed up all night writing what her characters told her to write (the whole book is on legal pads). What came from that was a book call "Beyond the Veil". While she was writing the first book she was also writing a couple other books all at the same time.
The cool thing about living with a writer, is you get to read it before anyone else does. After I read that first book, I suggested she try to publish it. We had no clue how to get anything published. She did research and they said you had to have an agent. Almost 100 agents rejected her. Where do you find an agent, you ask, after everyone else rejected you? You call a dear friend that has no clue what she is doing, either, and convince her to become an agent and create her own literary agency. She told her husband what we were trying to do and he didn't think she could get the book published. Christy and I had full faith in her (once again you need to support your spouse), and four months later we were signing a contract with a publishing company. It was really hard for Christy during the rejection process, but I told her every day it was going to be picked up by someone, because it was that good.
Nowadays, she sleeps better, but work interferes with writing. So I choose to clean house, do laundry, dishes, marketing, whatever it takes for her to just concentrate on her talents, because I want her to keep creating. I need to know how these stories end.
When you get involved with what your writer is doing it is such a fun time. We have been able to do comic cons, book signings, radio interviews and here is so much more to come. I am actually looking forward to the movie premiere one day.
Read your spouse's book,whether you like that kind of book or not. You will get a view of what is in their heads and their hearts. You will know their feelings and their struggles, especially the ones they would never voice otherwise. If you are lucky like me, you will see your name in every single story they write, whether you are an octopus in one story, a vampire that gets killed off, or you have to drive a Subaru Forester in another.
Do whatever it takes, they may not make a ton of money, but your goal is to get their name out to the public. Call the radio stations, the books stores to schedule events, rent the tables at comic cons (heck, go to comic cons. I went recently and met Summer Glau, Manu Bennett and some other celebs, they each had the privilege of receiving one of Christy's book cover postcards),whatever you have to do, do it, because you don't know who will read their book. It doesn't matter if you make money at these events or even break even. That's not the point, the point is to get to a new group of readers. You have to spend money to make money. Even if we never recoup those expenses, we have had great life experiences just living them.
So, since last November things have really changed. Due to circumstances, Christy had to part ways with her publishing company. It was kind of a shock to the system. She was worried about starting from scratch, again. I reassured her all was going to turn out great, because it is. She is so strong, focused and has great friends and family. I would like to thank everyone that helped her along the way, all of her family and Facebook friends are so supportive. I wish I could name all of them but I would not be able to name them all. Thank you.
So spouses, even if your writer stays at home, help with the house work, bathe the kids, put them to bed, make dinner, READ YOUR WRITER'S BOOK (it's so important), be there for them, that's all they want. Just remember all of the times they had to support you. You needed them to be there for you, now it's your turn. It is so important that you are their biggest fan, no questions asked. They have a talent that most people wish they could have, if you are not sharing in it, you are missing out. So be engaged in all ways.